Hauling Trash

Isaiah 40:28-31  (NLT)

28 Have you never heard?  Have you never understood?  The Lord is the everlasting God,
 the Creator of all the earth.  He never grows weak or weary.  No one can measure the depths of his understanding.  29 He gives power to the weak and strength to the powerless.  30 Even youths will become weak and tired,  and young men will fall in exhaustion.  31 But those who trust in the Lord will find new strength.  They will soar high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary.  They will walk and not faint.


Let’s be honest, most working moms are exhausted. You love your kids, love your man, love your job, love your life, your friends, your family blah, blah, blah… But, oh if only you could take a nap. And even if you do by some miracle get to nap, you can’t turn your mind off. It’s multi-tasking at the speed of light, mowing down rest and peace like a freight train. Got to get it all figured out and make sure everyone is where they are supposed to be, doing what they are supposed to be doing. But Jesus said, “Come unto me all that are heavy-laden and I will give you rest.” (Matt 11:28).

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It’s a promise from straight from the heart of Jesus. He looked into the eyes of another overworked overwrought and frustrated woman, and said “You’re missing something, Martha.”

Luke 10: 38-40 Now it came to pass, as they went, that he entered into a certain village: and a certain woman named Martha received him into her house. 39 And she had a sister called Mary, which also sat at Jesus’ feet, and heard his word.

Martha received Jesus into her house as a kind and gracious host. She received Him as a dignitary, as someone to be honored. This all sounds really really good, and it’s very impressive…until it is compared to true intimacy. While Martha let Jesus within the vicinity of her heart, Mary let him in. There she sat, right at his feet, clinging to every word, taking the time to get to know Jesus, not just about Jesus.

Mary was listening to his words. His words bring spirit and life (John 6:63), the very thing that Martha so desperately needed.

40 But Martha was cumbered about much serving, and came to him, and said, Lord, dost thou not care that my sister hath left me to serve alone? bid her therefore that she help me.

I purposely chose the King James Version for this passage, because the word cumbered paints such a vivid picture. I immediately picture someone heavy laden, hauling around a lot of junk, carrying baggage, hauling trash. The word cumbered literally means to drag all around. It further means to be distracted, to be driven about mentally, too over-occupied, too busy.

41 And Jesus answered and said unto her, Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things:

On the surface, it seems Martha is upset because Mary isn’t helping her. But don’t you love how Jesus always cuts to the chase and answers the real question, even when it isn’t being asked? “Martha, you are careful and troubled about many things, not just today, not just this meal…girl, you have a lot of things going on in that head of yours.”

Martha was trying to get it all figured out…all by herself, when the life-giver, the ultimate problem-solver was right there in her midst.

42 But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her.

One thing is needful. Our harried, busy and distracted lives is usually an indication that we have set aside the one thing we all so greatly need and that is time at His feet, gazing into His eyes.  His very presence will replenish and restore you. If you consistently maintain this intimacy, little by little crooked paths will be made straight, questions will be answered, dilemmas will be solved.

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You will usually find that His presence will lead you to simplify your life and to focus in on the things that really matter, taking out the trash once and for all. Usually you are just plain doing too much and need to let it go. Let go of “it has to be done a certain way” before it becomes your undoing. Many times just enough is good enough, so you can have more time for what really matters…time with Him.

Working Moms

She girds herself with strength [spiritual, mental, and physical fitness for her God-given task] and makes her arms strong and firm. Proverbs 31:17 Amp

Working Moms

Many church folks take a traditional view of how the home should run. The husband is to be the sole financial provider for the family and the wife’s place is home with the children.  However, I would venture to guess that at least half or more (most likely significantly more) of Christian women with children, work outside of the home. But the Church tends to ignore this demographic, like we don’t exist. The sermons, anecdotes, blogs, experts, etc. that focus on marriage all take the viewpoint as if all Christian women are stay-at-home moms. All of their examples and advice focus on this family model. But what if your family doesn’t look like this? What if mom does work? What if, God forbid, not only does mom work, but she is the primary or sole provider? This possibility is simply ignored in the teachings I hear about marriage. That silence alone makes you assume that it is somehow bad, not good enough, something to be pitied, or… maybe even a sin! (Cue melodramatic music.)

To be perfectly honest with you, being a working mom is not all that glamourous and somedays it can be downright sucky. Like when you have a sick child but you must be at work that particular day. These type of time conflicts are never fun or easy.

But today, because of the life I want my child to have (both now and in the future), I choose to work. And so do many other women. And there are many women, Christian women, who want to work. To preserve her sanity and her family’s, they want her to work too!

Godly women clearly work today. Even in biblical times, they worked. The Proverbs 31 woman, who has been held up to us as the standard, worked while being a mother(Proverbs 31: 13-19, 24, 28, 31) . So, there is really no debate. What we must stop doing is judging each other for how we choose to best take care of our families. Show me a woman who has decided to stay home to take of her family, and I’ll show you another one who gets up every day and goes to work to take care of hers. Why is one right and one wrong? The objective is the same: a healthy happy family.

As all working moms know, there is no such thing as a “part-time” mom. So I don’t really understand the term, “full-time” mom. You never abdicate the responsibility of your child. Even when they are not with you, you are always managing their lives in some way, constantly thinking about and planning for their well-being.

So, stop judging each other and stop judging yourself…and stop judging your husband for not being Daddy Warbucks. Unfortunately, we look at what we think is the perfect family and we may begin to feel dissatisfaction with ours. Couple that emotion with the natural longing for more time with your kids and just more time in general, and if you’re not careful, dissatisfaction will turn into resentment. Especially if you listen to the silent disapproval of the church about working moms (And sometimes not so silent).

Newsflash! Some of us are called into the workplace! It is our mission field! There are people there who are your assignment, who only you can reach. But you are too busy resenting being there to look around you and see who is hurting, who needs prayer or encouragement.

And here’s another newsflash friend – God is in the kingdom business. He doesn’t waste talent. Look at the parables (Matthew 25:14-29). Why would he put those natural abilities and talents inside you if He didn’t expect you to use them? He also has the plan and strategy to help you be and do everything He called you to be.

Enjoy where you are at in life. Enjoy your kids, and if you’re married, enjoy your man. Enjoy contributing to the workplace with your skills. Stop wishing and waiting around for another life.  Stop waiting for someday! Enjoy the life you have! Enjoy and embrace being a working mom.